Busiswa distaste to the core by abusive men
Busiswa distaste to the core by abusive men
Renowned singer and songwriter Busiswa Gqulu opened about being in abusive relationships.
At an equivalent time, she also took a stand against gender-based violence, which is increasing at an alarming rate in South Africa .
In a series of video shared on her Instagram account on Monday, the “Black Is King” star broke her silence on the alleged physical, psychological, emotional and financial abuse she suffered at the hands of her two former lovers, including the daddy of her baby, Katlego “DJ Kaygee” Mlangeni.
“In the years between 2013 and 2019 i used to be in, not one but two abusive relationships. the primary was with Sfiso Mazibuko, who abused me physically, psychologically and emotionally,” she claims.
“The second was with Katlego Mlangeni, who is that the father of my child, and he abused me physically, emotionally, financially, not only while we were during a relationship, he also came after me, four months after our hack , to beat me up once more for seeing me out with somebody else .”
In September 2019, the singer and her friend, Marc, real name Themba Kubheka, were allegedly attacked by Mlangeni.
Kubheka broke his silence about the violent incident on social media. However, Mlangeni later denied the assault but says he found the 2 during a compromising position.
Though she addressed abuse in her documentary, “Busiswa: An Unbreakable Story”, which was released in December 2019, the singer says wasn’t able to discuss the abuse at the time because she felt ashamed.
“I’m not making this video to speak about these two individuals, I’m making this video to deal with a couple of things particularly about gender-based violence, but also to speak to women and girls who have or may ever find themselves in those situations,” she explains.
“To ladies who are in abusive relationships, it isn’t your responsibility or your job to vary an abuser. once I was in an abusive relationship, I kept it a secret, I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t only want to guard the person i used to be with at the time, I also didn’t want anybody to think that I’m weak.”
The “uWrongo” hitmaker says she regrets not getting her alleged abusers arrested.
“I must say, I’m flawed therein regard. i do not think it’s enough to only leave … I do think it’s important to require action and report these cases because this why men who are abusers are walking around freely in our communities. They live among us because there are not any repercussions for his or her actions.”
She also sent a robust message to abusive men.
“To the lads , first of all, abusers are disgusting to the core. Rapists, you deserve death. But to the lads who are constantly reminding us that there are good men and not all men violate, it isn’t enough to mention i do not abuse so … you’ve got to try to more.
“What are you doing to guard the ladies in your life, the ladies that you simply know are being raped, violated in any shape or form? you’ve got to exit of your temperature to guard women … we’d like you.”
The star also spoke about her upcoming album, insisting that going forward she is going to tell her stories through music, hence the album, “My Side Of The Story”.
“If you ever wonder where I stand, this is often the album which will clarify exactly that, which is where my stories will live from now on.
“If you’re an abuser, you’ll feel uncomfortable taking note of my album, if you are a rapist, you’ll feel uncomfortable taking note of my album.”
Fans and industry friends including Kelly Khumalo, Nadia Nakai and Nomzamo Mbatha rallied behind the SBWL star, sharing their messages of affection and support for courage to share her story.
“Sending you tons of affection and that i pray that you simply at some point heal from all of it ❤️,” wrote singer Kelly Khumalo.
“You are sooo brave! And your words really landed!!!! Sending you’re keen on and light! ❤️ no women deserves to travel through any shape or sort of abuse! 🤗❤️❤️❤️,” commented hip=hop star Nadia Nakai.
“Immense love, admiration and deep respect! 👏🏽,” added TV host Nomzamo Mbatha.
“We undergo challenges in life to find out from them and to empower others. many thanks for this video. you’ve got made tons of”> numerous women realise that they’re not alone and possibly have saved a lot of lives. You’ve given someone strength to steer away,” wrote actress Simz Ngema.
“So brave. many thanks for sharing … ❤️” commented TV host Ayanda Thabethe.